The golden rule of being a parent is to love your children in the way they are.

Most parents think of children as miniature adults.

When my wife got pregnant, I asked for advice from other friends with children. One, in particular, made me think: “You have to leave your kid cry in his bed so that she learns how to behave”. And I heard so many times about “Ah, I’d give you a good spank.”

There are lots of specific behaviors that most people consider appropriate to children:

• Anger
• Yelling
• Violence

The idea that children are small adults made us treat them as severely as we can’t do with other adults.

This attitude comes from the mania of control.

When we see situations that hurt us, we are nervous because we can’t control everything. Children are so fragile that we can use all of our “power” to “block” their weird expressions. We grow up with many expectations, and we overreact when our expectations are unattended.

Instead, it would be best if you considered this:

Your children are perfect in the way they are. Being kind and loving them is way better than having expectations.

Love your children always, over everything that YOU don’t like.