7 attitudes that kill a child’s emotional development. Detect them and protect your child from trauma.

Children’s education is an extraordinary journey. You are not born relatives. One does not study to become relative.

You learn.

But there are different models, and often our usual adult model takes up what we too have experienced.

A psychotherapist once made it clear to me how our generation lives instead of the emotional block our parents did to the point that we do not miss an opportunity to describe them.

We, adults, have a more developed cerebral cortex that helps us manage emotions (and not always), babies begin to develop it at 10 months, and it has been a very long journey since then.

Any solid emotional shock risks creating deep fractures in the brain structure that become trauma due to the reduced size of the cerebral cortex.

Studies show that 52.5% of children receive at least one childhood trauma between 2 and 5.

Childhood trauma is a severe suspect for profound psychological problems as an adult.

As parents, we have to recognize these risks and prevent them.

Attitudes that kill children’s emotional development.

Inculcate fear.

“Don’t go there, there’s a monster!”

Condition love.

“If you don’t eat, I don’t love you anymore.”

Trigger a sense of guilt.

“If you do that, dad cries.”

Punish the emotions.

“If you cry again, no ice cream!”

Lie.

“If you calm down, dad will take you to the rides.”

Invalidate emotions.

“Getting angry will do no good.”

Be hypercritical.

“You’re a bungler, you can’t do anything.”

You cannot decide what emotions your child has to experience, you can decide to guide him towards a healthy way of living and dealing with emotions.

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