3 actionable tips to Become a Good Listener for Fathers, CEOs, and Husbands to Suddenly Sound like (and eventually Become) More Interested in Others.
I wish I had read this piece 3 years ago when I thought my opinion magically applied to everything. But even 4 or 7 years ago.
I became Father, CEO, and Husband during these periods, respectively.
And I realized I didn’t know anything. Not even now, I want to clarify it, but I have learned something the hard way, and I want to share it.
I promise: with this piece, you will have a kit of actionable elements to sound like good listeners.
⚠️Be aware: to sound like a good listener, you need humility. There is nothing more humble than keeping your mouth shut and listening to others for real.
Looking like a good listener, learning to be a good listener, led me to really become one. And I discovered the incredible power of knowing two points of view, mine and that of my interlocutor.
As a Father, CEO, and Husband.
Here are the tricks to seem like good listeners.
#1 Ask Questions.❓
- Use open-ended questions to start the conversation.
- Let others express themselves first.
- Ask clarifying questions.
#2 Confirm listening 👂
- Turn your gaze towards the interlocutor.
- “I see”
- “Um”
- Nod your head.
- Do the echo (a more complex skill that facilitates the opening of others. Interlocutor: “… and then he told me to leave!” You: “… leave …” I: “yes, exactly, so I … “)
#3 Be patient and be silent 🤐
- Be silent, your opinion is useless.
- Don’t frown.
- Do not drum with your fingers.
- Accept the pauses of silence, which are moments where the other person clarifies her thoughts.
- Don’t intervene right away.
Now my taunt: now that you’ve made an effort to “sound good listeners,” why not be, really?
How to handle what you have just read is entirely up to you.
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